Decalogues

Inspired by Vital Therapy

Self-improvement doesn’t mean becoming someone else, but becoming a better version of yourself.
We can’t be the best at everything, but we can get better at everything.
When you do what you must, you become who you want to be.
First we believe we can, then we can because we believe.
The paths to growth are action and reflection.
Taking the risk of failure helps you take the next step.
Mistakes make us fall, but learning helps us rise.
After effort comes reinforcement.
At the end of the ladder of failure lies the door to success.
Many small things always add up to something great.

We are children of our past, but also parents of our future.
If we want to like our life story, we should improve our handwriting.
Those who don’t live for something must live for someone.
Just as no one is good at everything, no one is useless at everything.
Develop your personal abilities and you’ll have more job opportunities.
You can be happy without being successful, and you can be successful without being happy.
Not having bad luck is already good luck.
From weakness we give in; from strength we give generously.
It’s possible to suffer without maturing, but not to mature without suffering.
Man is not unhappy because he is bad — he is bad because he is unhappy.

Be honest, but also sensible.
Remember that what happens between two people is never the responsibility of just one.
Selfishness in others can only be recognized through our own.
Don’t try to make your partner understand you — try to understand your partner.
Don’t confuse a forever relationship with being together all the time.
Don’t confuse stability with routine.
Relationships work better with reinforcement than with effort.
A relationship can’t survive on sex alone — but it can’t survive without it either.
Keep in mind that living together means making concessions.
The couple that lasts is the couple that grows.

Always act according to the golden rule.
Respect your partner’s golden rule.
Create a shared sexual code that satisfies your Inner Child and aligns with your Adult self.
Express your sexuality naturally and trust that your partner will do the same.
Remember that everyone has their own model of gratification.
Trust that your partner can achieve satisfaction according to their own model.
The best way to enjoy sex is to pursue your own pleasure without forcing or neglecting your partner’s.
Give credibility to what your partner says — if both of you follow the golden rule, there’s no reason to distrust each other’s feedback.
Remember that sex should be neither selfish nor altruistic, but practiced with positive self-interest.
Desire without a relationship is better than a relationship without desire.

PREREQUISITE: Apply the four points of the Golden Rule of sexuality:

FIVE GUIDELINES THAT FACILITATE ORGASM AND HEALTHY SEXUAL FUNCTIONING:

A good choice of romantic/sexual partner.
Begin sexual play by surrendering to your sensations.
Enjoy pleasure without focusing on orgasm.
Keep in mind that orgasm requires time, dedication, and satisfaction.
Remember that sexual satisfaction depends not only on your own capacity but also on compatibility with your partner.

FIVE MISTAKES THAT HINDER ORGASM AND HEALTHY SEXUAL FUNCTIONING:

ATTITUDINAL SUMMARY:
Let yourself be carried by pleasure — it’s the easiest way to reach it.

PREREQUISITE: Apply the four points of the Golden Rule of sexuality:

FIVE GUIDELINES THAT FACILITATE ERECTION AND HEALTHY SEXUAL FUNCTIONING:

FACTORS THAT HINDER ERECTION AND HEALTHY SEXUAL FUNCTIONING:

ATTITUDINAL SUMMARY:
If the erection goes away, let it — it’ll come back.